Friday, May 23, 2008

New Blog

Please visit our new blog site at www.merrywives.org

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

KSL's Nightside Project

I would like to extend a "thank you" to Ethan Millard and Alex Kirry of KSL's Nightside Project for the segment they did with two ladies from Centennial Park. It was very positive and informative. I appreciate Ethan and Alex giving Centennial Park a chance to tell their story.

To listen to the podcast, click here. It is under Hour 1 for Monday.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Dear Mayor Lown,

You want to focus so much on the crimes of the FLDS and overrule them as citizens of your little community.....What about the crimes committed by those who have sworn the oath similar to yours to uphold and protect the rights of your citizens? To read what he said, go to Mayor Lown's Letter

Monday, May 12, 2008

Media Training in St. George

Well, I have mixed feelings about the effectiveness of the media training we had in St. George.

Some guidelines we came up with during the meeting for the media are:
Reduce sensationalism - be careful of verbage that colors a story.
Be factual and well balanced.
Differentiate between criminals and the rest of the people.
Don't ask about sexual abuse when you are interviewing a child.

Some tips the media had for us are:
Step forward and tell your story.
Develop a relationship with reporters.
"It is hard for us to demonize you if you talk to us." - Ben Winslow
"No comment is a comment." - Ben Winslow

Unfortuately a lot of the Q & A turned into a pro vs. anti argument about polygamy.

What do you think?

Woman Pregnant with 18th Child

In case you thought we were the only ones who liked having children....

www.duggarfamily.com

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Town Hall Meeting Talking Points

The Safety Net Committee has been successful in fighting abuse, and the Attorneys General approach has proved a successful model for the intervention process.

The Safety Net model is a more effective way to fight abuse than broad sweeps by law enforcement. Utah and Arizona have already participated in the same action currently in progress in Texas. The Safety Net model will be an asset to the State of Texas as it continues in this process.

1. The success of the raid on the YFZ Ranch by Texas authorities has not been determined. There is no question that civil liberties have been abused in an attempt to stop possible criminal activities. Utah and Arizona cannot follow its example without violating important civil freedoms. Broad law enforcement intervention in this style has already failed in these states. The Safety Net committee is a model some fifty years ahead of Texas and significantly more successful with ties inside the community and relationships with the people it represents.

2. Utah and Arizona understand that this issue is a complex question of legal and social implications and cannot be addressed by a broad brush that paints many different people with one brush stroke. While it applies to all, the law protects the individual. Mr. Shurtleff and Mr. Goddard have “brought law back into Colorado City” by establishing key services and demonstrating a willingness to prosecute abuse and protect victims.

3. Mr. Goddard has acknowledged a need for a “victim” before law enforcement can intervene. The committee has been successful in supporting its goal to protect victims while it has not make the mistake of ignoring its legal mandate to prosecute crime, not culture.

4. The Safety Net Committee must follow the states accepted definitions of abuse and will fail its purpose to represent the family if it extends its authority to include different cultural norms and belief systems.

5. Women’s RightsWomen have the right to make their own choice and build relationships of their preference. Oppression of women includes an idea that the government can dictate their partners regardless of the woman’s choice. It took more than 100 years for women to win the right to vote. In the last fifty years they have fought for the right to work. We are still fighting for the right to choose our own relationships. We refuse to be defined by men, or an idea that we are less than other women or ignorant because we do not depend on one man’s full attention to make us worthy.

6. Civil disobedience is an integral piece of American life. Opposition to laws contradictory to good conscience must be opposed through the will of the people, and their refusal to obey them. Laws regulating the relationships of consenting adults are a violation of basic rights of freedom. Educated citizens practicing civil disobedience follow in the footsteps of American founders such as Thomas Jefferson and George Washington as well as civil liberators such as Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks.

7. Government Hysteria:Senator Joseph McCarthy used rumor and innuendo to destroy lives of law-abiding citizens based on their affiliations or associations. The House Committee of Un-American Activities is a stain on the history of the legislature of the United States. If we learn from the mistake, we understand the words and actions of key figures in our Senate can have long-lasting negative impact on American citizens. There is a reason the law requires evidence for prosecution. It is reckless for public figures to call for action against lifestyles and cultures based on their belief system.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Similarities Between LDS and FLDS

This is an intersting bit of information by Dr. John Walsh. I especially like #1.
Press Release
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
CONTACT:
Name: Dr. John Walsh
Address: 2519 Branch View Lane Missouri City, Texas 77459
Phone: 281-403-3032

LDS AND FLDS VERY SIMILAR IN BELIEF AND PRACTICE
MISSOURI CITY, TEXAS 05 May 2008 Dr. John Walsh would like to correct errors in numerous media reports about divergences between the FLDS and the mainstream LDS (Mormon) Church.
Based on Dr. Walsh’s research, the LDS and FLDS share about 95% common theology and 75% common practice. The major differences in practice arise from the FLDS refusal to evolve from 19th century Mormon origins.
Here are some examples of false statements found in the Media:

1. “The FLDS are not Mormon.”
Correction: A Mormon is someone who believes that Joseph Smith was the Prophet and Seer of the Lord, and who also believes that the Book of Mormon is the word of God. The FLDS meet these criteria, and are therefore Mormons.

2. “The FLDS were never part of the LDS Church.”
Correction: The founders of Mormon fundamentalism, from which the FLDS emerged, were members of the LDS Church who left the organization over differences in the limits of priesthood authority in the 1930s. In the early 1900s, the LDS Church developed a new policy insisting that the President of the Church had the divine authority to either command polygamy or restrict its practice. The FLDS insisted upon the older policy that stated whether to practice polygamy or not was a personal matter between an individual and God. It should be noted that the last two leaders of the FLDS, Rulon Jeffs and his son Warren, adopted a more authoritarian approach to priesthood authority than the ideology originally espoused by the FLDS.

3. “The FLDS don’t practice what the LDS practice.”
Correction: FLDS and LDS worship services are very similar in format. They use almost exactly the same ritual. FLDS and LDS worship services are closer to each other in almost all respects than either of them is to the practices of any other religion, denomination, or sect. The FLDS use the temple rituals from the 1800s, while the LDS have modernized them. The FLDS use religious garments approved by Joseph Smith, while the LDS have updated their garments to allow the wearing of modern clothing.

4. “The LDS Church has renounced polygamy. Anyone who believes in polygamy is ex-communicated. The LDS believes in the family unit of one man, one woman and their children.”
Correction: Polygamy is still an essential doctrine in LDS theology and is still practiced in certain forms by members of the LDS Church. While the LDS Church does not presently allow members to have more than one living spouse, the Church does allow widowers to marry again for “time and all eternity” if they so desire. For example, two current apostles, Russell M. Nelson and Dallin H. Oaks, have both married a second wife for eternity. Apostle Oaks has told LDS Church members that he expects to continue marriages with both women simultaneously in heaven, and thus, according to LDS theology, he plans to procreate children with both of his wives after the resurrection. Major LDS Church authorities and theologians, such as Apostle Bruce R. McConkie, have stated that the Church will restore the full practice of polygamy after the Second Coming of Christ, if not before.

5. “The FLDS treat women as inferior to men, while the LDS treat women and men as equals.”
Correction: There is no significant difference in the place of women in the LDS Church versus the FLDS. This is because both groups define their gender positions on a common canon of scripture. With both the FLDS and LDS, the place of women depends entirely upon how each household interprets scriptural passages indicating that wives should be subordinate to their husbands. Individuals interpret differently what subordination means. With both groups, you can find women who feel they are equal to their husbands and also find women who feel they are treated as inferiors.

6. “The LDS Church stopped practicing polygamy in 1890, after the federal government banned it.”
Correction: The LDS Church still secretly practiced polygamy for several decades after the 1890 proclamation. In the early part of the 20th century, there was continual disagreement among LDS leaders as to whether the Church should continue to secretly defy US federal law over what many Mormons considered to be an inviolable religious principle. It was not until 1911, with the excommunication of Apostle John W. Taylor, that Church authorities had a consensus amongst themselves to truly discontinue the practice of polygamy. Even then, the Church did not aggressively excommunicate polygamists until the 1930s, when they began to forcefully pursue a mainstream all-American image in the national consciousness.
# # #

If you’d like more information or to interview Dr. John Walsh, please contact him at 281-403-3032 or e-mail Dr. Walsh at wjwalshphd@comcast. net.

Friday, May 2, 2008

A Mother's Thoughts

Silent and lone, silent and lone!
Where, tell me where, are my little ones gone,
That used to be playing about my knee,
With their noisy mirth and boisterous glee?
Who littered the carpets and misplaced the chairs,
And scattered their playthings all unawares;
Who called for their suppers, with eager shout,
And while they were getting, ran in and out;
Who kept all the apples and nuts from spoiling,
And never saved jackets and pants from soiling.

Silent and lone, silent and lone!
Where, tell me where, are my little ones gone?
There are no little faces to wash to-night,
No little troubles for mother to right,
No little blue eyes to be sung to sleep,
No little playthings to put up to keep,
No little garments to hang on the rack
No little tales to tell, no nuts to crack,
No little trundle bed brimful of rolic,
Calling for mamma to settle the frolic,
No little soft lips to press me with kisses-
Oh! such a sad, lonely evening as this is;
No little voices to shout with delight,
"Good night, dear mamma, good night, good night!"
Silent the house is, no little ones here,
To startle a smile or chase back a tear.
-by a Short Creek Mother

The above poem was published in volumn 19 (October 1953) of the Truth Magazine.

Town Hall Meeting

For Immediate ReleaseMay 2, 2008
ContactPaul Murphy:
(801) 538-1892
pmurphy@utah.gov

MEDIA & POLYGAMY: TELLING THE STORYA.G. TOWN HALL WILL EXPLORE MEDIA EXPOSURE AND MORE

Polygamy and the roles of the media and government will be explored ina Town Hall Meeting in St. George. This will be the fourth Town HallMeeting concerning polygamy for Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff andArizona Attorney General Terry Goddard.

“We started this discussion five years ago and this will be a good chance to reflect on where we have gone and where we need to go,” says Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff.

The Attorneys General of Utah and Arizona will be joined for a panel discussion by Arizona State Representative David Lujan, Centennial Park resident Don Timpson and Utah Safety Net Coordinator Paul Murphy. The public will be invited to attend and participate.

"Previous Town Halls have all been productive, and this year's will bean important opportunity to strengthen relations between law enforcement and the Colorado City/Hildale community," says Arizona Attorney General Terry Goddard.

The Town Hall Meeting will follow a half-day training session for members of polygamous communities, journalists, law enforcement officers and social service providers working with plural families. The training session has two goals:

* Help journalists seek truth and report it; minimize harm; act independently; and be held accountable.

* Help polygamists and people working with polygamists provide information in a way that is accurate, fair and minimizes harm,especially to children.

Both events are being sponsored by the Utah-Arizona Safety Net Committee, which brings together government agencies, non-profit organizations and interested individuals together to “open up communication, break down barriers and coordinate efforts to give people associated with the practice of polygamy equal access to justice, safety and services.”

What: Town Hall Meeting
When: 7:00-9:00 p.m., Thursday, May 8, 2008

What: Media Training Session
When: 1:00-5:00 p.m, Thursday May 8, 2008

Where: Both events will be at the Dixie Center, 1835 Convention CenterDrive, St. George, Utah
More information can be found at
http://attorneygeneral.utah.gov/PrRel/prmay22008.html.

Does anyone have any thoughts, questions, comments, or concerns about this?

The FLDS Problem

The following public forum letter was printed in the Salt Lake Tribune on April 30, 2008.

While emotionally appealing, the plea that the Texas FLDS children be returned to their parents fails to answer the question, "What then?" The Short Creek "return policy" has resulted in: the "lost boys," welfare fraud amounting to billions of dollars, 15-year-old girls exercising "free will" to marry 50-year-old men (please!), and women "reassigned" to new husbands outside the bounds of secular law. Which action presents the greater evil?

Nature provides a near 50/50 ratio of female to male, yet in the Texas compound there are four women to every man. Someone is being short-changed. Being expelled from the community, the "lost boys" find themselves unprepared to fend in normal society. These expulsions warrant jail time for the responsible authority and for the parents. How many men can afford to clothe, feed, house and educate 30 children? Polygamy is not only against the law, but by depending upon government welfare for its survival, it crosses the boundary of church and state. Yes, the Texas incident seems harsh, but something harsh is needed, similarly in Hildale, Utah, and Colorado City, Ariz. Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff should do more than close one eye.
F.T. Gardiner Provo


According to F.T. Gardiner, FLDS welfare fraud amouts to "billions of dollors." Billions? That is a figure I find extremely hard to believe.

What are your thoughts on this letter?

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Latter-Day Taint

Jacob Sullum posted this very interesting article on TownHall.com.

I'm not quite as old-fashioned as the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (FLDS), which hews to the early-marriage customs of the 19th century and the polygamous practices of biblical times. But I'm old-fashioned enough to believe the government needs a good reason to pull a crying, clinging child away from her mother and hand her over to the care of strangers.

The possibility that the child might marry an older man 10, 12 or 14 years from now does not cut it. Citing that long-term, speculative danger to justify the certain, immediate damage it has done by forcibly separating hundreds of children from their parents, the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services has violated its duty to take such extreme measures only when there's no other way to prevent imminent harm.


Here is the link for the rest of the article: http://www.townhall.com/columnists/JacobSullum/2008/04/30/latter-day_taint?page=full&comments=true

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

FLDS Raid - A Dangerous Precedent

Joel Skousen has this to say in regard to the raid on the FLDS people in El Dorado:
But this should not deter the nation from realizing the danger of the tenuous legal proposition that mere membership in a group (that may have isolated examples of marrying underage girls) makes all unworthy of possessing any children at all--ever. That is wrong, especially when legal remedies exist to prosecute specific wrongdoers.
Even if you don't like or agree with the lifestyle of the FLDS, it is important to understand that the tactics being employed by the state of Texas are wrong and may someday be used against any group in America (whether polygamist or not).

Here is the link for the entire article:
http://www.rense.com/general81/flads.htm

Monday, April 28, 2008

Editorial In Spectrum

The Spectrum published an editorial on April 27 that makes some very good points.

We should stow the drama, ignore the prejudices one way or the other and put our own beliefs on hold and take a long, hard look at the legality of what is occurring in Texas.

Texas is violating the civil rights of the FLDS people and psychologically damaging the children with the way they are handling this case.

Let's all try to put our emotions on hold and find out the FACTS before we start condemning people.

Saturday, April 26, 2008

Is this a meeting or a party?

Annual Town Hall Meeting

Heads up:

The Utah & Arizona Safety Net Committee is holding their (our) annual shindig in St. George. May 8, 2008 at the Dixie Center.

We see this as a good opportunity to meet with government agents - especially the AGs Office - and work on current issues.

Want your voice heard? Don't sleep in. We need you there.

Here is more information.